How the reason for your divorce can affect your actual divorce

When two people divorce, there are likely numerous reasons each person could state for the demise of the relationships. Often, though, there is one primary event or behavior that ultimately pushes the relationship beyond repair.

That reason can have a dramatic impact on the trajectory of the divorce process in various ways.

Other people

Infidelity is one of the most common reasons for divorce, according to a recent article. However, another romantic partner is not the only other person that can play a role in a couple’s divorce. Feuding family members, distrustful friends or an overly demanding boss can all create problems that cause two people to end a marriage.

These parties can affect the divorce process by giving spouses inaccurate information, unrealistic expectations or a sense of security (false or not) that can influence their decision-making process. This type of input may not always be helpful, so it important to stay focused on the facts and getting legitimate legal guidance.

Financial pitfalls

Money is yet another common reason for divorce. Spouses may have disagreed on how to spend money, one party’s efforts to earn money or how to manage the stress caused by not having enough money.

If money is a primary force behind your divorce, it could certainly impact the method of divorce you choose. If finances are tight, you might opt for an out-of-court option, like mediation, to save money. If your assets are significant and complex, you might need to enlist the help of professionals and prepare for a lengthier, costlier courtroom divorce.

Personal issues

Frequent arguing, a lack of commitment, substance abuse problems and violent tendencies are all serious issues that can push a relationship past the breaking point. They also typically have great emotional fallout, which can significantly affect the divorce process.

For instance, when parties are threatening, manipulative or overly aggressive, cooperative solutions like mediation may not be appropriate. On the other hand, when there is still some respect and compassion between parties, it can be preferable to prioritize amicable solutions to protect whatever peacefulness may remain.

So much of the divorce process hinges on the unique factors of the people involved. As such, it is important to remember that every case — and every party — is different and warrants personal solutions.